Recently, this #METOO shared with 1 of my 4 children that in the year of 2020, I will begin blogging an autobiography. The Child replied with some angst regarding what was going 'to be' in the autobiography and shortly thereafter, 1 of my 5 brothers randomly reminded me that 'tender words are easier to chew if you have to eat them'.
Authoring a biography of Self presumably is never an easy journey and the imagination of others can go wild. However, for this C-PTSD Soul who was birthed into a physically-abusive incestuous family and escaped at the age of 18 years only to continue a Life filled with considerable dysfunction for another 4 decades, this will be a daunting task regarding any and all perceptions.
Therefore, I responded both that I believe we each have our own story to tell and that alpha to omega of my journey will be with an 'Amen'. Mine is mine to tell and I will do my best to keep my words generically 'sweet and tender' to keep any offense to a minimum. Yet, I must always keep in mind that it is the once-incarcerated Soul, the Inner Child, that is finally free to sing.
The worth of embarking upon such a daunting task is the seal of Victory, similar I imagine, when one runs a difficult race and makes it across the finish line. C D Moody, MoodySpeaks.com and author of 'Fighting Though the Fear', recently expressed for him it is 'I am free!' For me, since obtaining in 2009 the level of psychiatric therapy that I desperately needed, it is 'I AM...FREE!'
Reaching the 'I AM' in me was something that was necessary to achieve first. I needed to know the 5 Ws of my existence so that I could re-write who I was with integrity, as opposed to moot. According to the psychiatrist that was able to 'break through', most sojourn between jail and institutions until death. They don't make it out, I now know who 'I AM' and 'I AM...FREE!'
So, for all who are affected by Survivors who must shout, sing and live the 'Hallelujah!', forgive us if the song that evolves through our long-awaited, multi-aspect freedom contains any melody at times that is uncomfortable for you. To surpass the daunting, most Survivors are driven to share through whichever form of media comes to them most easily, inspiring others on similar paths ... to be free.
Monday, September 30, 2019
Sunday, September 1, 2019
Experiencing Real J.O.Y.
Why It So Difficult To Experience Real Joy
Joy is not something that we can experience through Self alone.
Joy is something that comes through the mental 'w-illness' we apply in our lives.
Joy is created through a 3-step process that comes to fruition outside of us, that we are invited to experience through participation...and it is a choice.
Breathing is somewhat of a good example of such a process. Air is available and it is our choice to participate in the exchange that breathing offers.
We can inhale, we can hold our breath, and/or we can exhale, accepting the continuation of the momentum of Life.
As it is said, in many forms, "...it takes 2...", we must choose to engage in breathing to continue Life.
As with experiencing real joy, participation is also both an individual choice and necessity.
The recipe, per se, for experiencing real joy follows a similar formula as breathing:
1) Pick a subject that we are most passionate about ('engage brain');
2) Take in ('breathe in') all the information available on the subject;
and
3) Reach out ('breathe out') to who needs help in the area of the passion we have chosen.
This can come in the form of supporting an individual, an organization that already exists or create a path for the passion we have chosen to express.
Just like the air that we need to breathe to continue Life is found outside of Self, real J.O.Y. is found:
J.ust
O.utside
Y.ourself
Understandably, steps 1 and 2 are the easiest, as they come more naturally, whether it be picking a subject or discerning which subjects you are most passionate about, learning all you can.
Step 3, for many, is the least easy, because it takes 'breathing out', getting out of one's Self to achieve maximum benefit.
I have made a decision to go #FULLON for next year and engage in my passions to the fullest.
Hop onto the #FULLON2020 mental 'w-illness' train to experience real joy in the coming year.
It takes making a choice*.
It takes learning all you can about that choice.
It takes sharing that knowledge with someone else...
*If you are a person who is most comfortable with supporting an organization that is already in existence, please consider HandsHealingHearts.com. Once a choice was made to get out of Self by one of my nephews, this organization not only helped save his Life, yet gave him an opportunity to help save others. You CAN, too!
Missdeb Can
"If Missdeb Can, ANY Body Can!"
Hope 4 U Ministries
Joy is not something that we can experience through Self alone.
Joy is something that comes through the mental 'w-illness' we apply in our lives.
Joy is created through a 3-step process that comes to fruition outside of us, that we are invited to experience through participation...and it is a choice.
Breathing is somewhat of a good example of such a process. Air is available and it is our choice to participate in the exchange that breathing offers.
We can inhale, we can hold our breath, and/or we can exhale, accepting the continuation of the momentum of Life.
As it is said, in many forms, "...it takes 2...", we must choose to engage in breathing to continue Life.
As with experiencing real joy, participation is also both an individual choice and necessity.
The recipe, per se, for experiencing real joy follows a similar formula as breathing:
1) Pick a subject that we are most passionate about ('engage brain');
2) Take in ('breathe in') all the information available on the subject;
and
3) Reach out ('breathe out') to who needs help in the area of the passion we have chosen.
This can come in the form of supporting an individual, an organization that already exists or create a path for the passion we have chosen to express.
Just like the air that we need to breathe to continue Life is found outside of Self, real J.O.Y. is found:
J.ust
O.utside
Y.ourself
Understandably, steps 1 and 2 are the easiest, as they come more naturally, whether it be picking a subject or discerning which subjects you are most passionate about, learning all you can.
Step 3, for many, is the least easy, because it takes 'breathing out', getting out of one's Self to achieve maximum benefit.
I have made a decision to go #FULLON for next year and engage in my passions to the fullest.
Hop onto the #FULLON2020 mental 'w-illness' train to experience real joy in the coming year.
It takes making a choice*.
It takes learning all you can about that choice.
It takes sharing that knowledge with someone else...
J.ust O.utside Y.ourself
*If you are a person who is most comfortable with supporting an organization that is already in existence, please consider HandsHealingHearts.com. Once a choice was made to get out of Self by one of my nephews, this organization not only helped save his Life, yet gave him an opportunity to help save others. You CAN, too!
Missdeb Can
"If Missdeb Can, ANY Body Can!"
Hope 4 U Ministries
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